take charge of your own life

Hello everyone! How has your week started?

I had five days off work around this past weekend and maybe for the first time I’ve reached a point where the time off work has really left me recharged and calm. I’m actually quite astonished at how life is and feels at the moment.

Summer has jolt started here in Finland in the past week or two, giving us a surprise heatwave. It was just mere weeks ago when we were still looking at the remaining piles of snow on the ground and wishing with all our might that spring would start to finally arrive. So, this early summer weather (I’m talking about over +25°c and cloudless skies) is truly something to be treasured. Even though it almost seems like we’ve missed one part of a season in between.

I’m going to talk about these past five days, because I feel like something has shifted in me in this time. I had such a strong urge to be outside earlier last week when the weather started to really warm up. I almost felt like I would suffocate if I had to stay too long periods of time inside. So what I did was pack up my picnic blanket, a water bottle and a book and I went out to the garden and spent hours there. And I felt so good. Breathing in the fresh air, being outside surrounded by the blue sky and the green grass and the opening leaves on the trees, gave me something so powerful and calming that it left me speechless. But so thankful and appreciative.

Each of those past five days I kept coming back outside. Sometimes I’ve walked somewhere else to enjoy the day, sometimes I’ve stayed at the garden and brought food with me to have a little picnic. But it’s been hours and hours a day not spent inside. And it’s left me with a refreshed mind and all around good feeling.

I’m not sure if it’s something to do with the sun and fresh air I’ve been taking in or if this is something that needed to just happen in me and now was it’s time, but I’ve had a little burst of strength and understanding come up to me. (These things happen to me every once in a while but they’re always important moments and every time I grow a little more as a person.)

We can take charge of our own lives at any moment.

We have the power to shape our own lives, to decide the road we’re heading towards to. It’s our own will power that determines how far we are going. Whether it stays on the thought level and we fill our minds full of resentment. Or we start something but leave it unfinished because we didn’t see the results quick enough. We put things off because they are something we think we can’t control or our situation doesn’t give space to do it. But there’s always something you can do to achieve those dreams and hopes. Even when they feel too far out of reach, there’s always something you can do to help your way towards it a little bit at a time. It might take a longer journey and what feels like far too long of a time to get to some of those dreams but when there’s hope there is always a possibility of having things work out. I’m not saying it will be easy or that the outcome will always be the exact same as the thought you started out with at first, but we need to be acceptable and make the best of each situation and moment. The most important thing is to never give up hope and to always do your very best to work towards something. Everything takes hard work to happen, nothing is given to you on a silver platter, that’s how life works. And only through hard work, do we get the utmost pleasure and happiness to live our lives.

What I like to remind myself of every once in a while is that working hard and doing your best doesn’t look the same for each person. Everyone is their own person and expecting everyone to live in the same wave length of energy is futile. It’s really easy to start adjusting yourself to the energy of the people around you but when doing so, unconsciously, it can lead to losing yourself a little bit at a time. Whether it’s expecting too much of yourself and others making you feel like you aren’t doing good enough if you don’t match their energy. Or adjusting to a lower energy than what comes naturally for you and letting yourself off too easily, even if you might have potential to do better for yourself.

Neither is the better or the worst, but it’s important to be conscious of it and look out for yourself. To see where you are and if it’s the optimal place for you to be in. Only when you start heading to a direction that isn’t the authentic you, does the negativity arrive to the picture and make things unnecessarily hard.

In my new year’s resolutions list I have a sentence written “Be open to new opportunities.”. And maybe the word opportunities isn’t the right one for this situation but I want to count all of these things in to it.

During the weekend I went to the library and decided to loan a French textbook. I’m not quite sure how that happened, if I even went in with that in mind but that’s where I found myself, leaving the library with a decision to learn French this summer and that I wanted to start now. This isn’t exactly a new opportunity because of course I could have gone and picked up that book anytime in the past about ten years that I’ve wanted to learn French for and start the process. But I like to think that there was a reason I haven’t done it before and now my life led me to this point where I have the passion to actually go through with it. It’s like my mind has given me permission and allowed the opportunity to achieve this dream now.

Allowing yourself opportunities. That’s a huge topic to talk about and probably deserves its own blog post, but now that it came up I want to address it briefly. Manifestation and the law of attraction, the root of this topic. Basically this is about putting your thoughts of dreams and hopes out there to the universe and through those thoughts you will start attracting those very things or things that will lead you forwards to achieving them. Now, of course sitting around and waiting for things to happen isn’t the way to go. You need to do some actual work and try your best to lean towards the way you want to go.

This is where we come to my favorite topic of positivity and negativity. If you keep your thought positive and you believe in the things you want in your life, they have a way of finding you. But on the other hand if you keep being negative and always doubting things, you probably aren’t going to find those wished things in life even if they were right in front of you.

Humans are weird beings in that sense that being negative and accepting defeat, quite often even before anything happens, is something that comes naturally to us. It definitely takes work to change the way you look at life and to allow yourself to believe in great things and that it’s possible to trust yourself and the universe to keep you going. But with doing so, opens up so many opportunities and the quality of your life will increase immensely.

This is of course a life long process and nobody is going to be 100% positive all the time. But I think it’s important to have the knowledge of your own ways and every once in a while take a moment to reflect on how you work with yourself in comparison to how you could do, to increase your well-being and progression towards a happier self.

To come back to my weekend I was talking about, I want to end this with something that makes me so enthusiastic and happy. In the past week I’ve finished two books and actually enjoyed the reading process. I used to be a big reader back when I was a child and a teenager but somehow lost the appeal of it for a bit. Of course I’ve read here and there, but it hasn’t felt like in the best of times when you keep on reading and you don’t even notice the pace you’re going in. Well, that’s the feeling I finally got back this weekend and I’m already on a next book. (I’m so happy I could cry.)

Hope you have a lovely week ahead of you and I’ll see you later.


3 thoughts on “take charge of your own life

  1. This was such a thought awakening post. I feel like you’ve managed to find the voice that speaks to the reader, and possibly speaks to you as well, and I’ve enjoyed reading your blog posts more and more if that’s even possible! I’m so glad that you’ve found something that makes you happy. Also, I’m ecstatic that you’ve found the enthusiasm to read again 😀 What are you reading now, if I may ask? 🙂 Can’t wait to read your future posts ❤

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    1. Thank you, this is such a lovely comment, made my heart all warm 😊 One of the reasons I wanted to start a blog was to practice writing and to find a way to express my thoughts, maybe I’m slowly getting there.. I’m actually reading a book I got from you, Simon vs the homo sapiens agenda 😄 I really hope I end up liking it!
      Thank you for reading 💛

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      1. Writing is such a journey, you never stop learning and I think that’s why it’s so wonderful 😄 you’re getting there, I’m sure of it 😊 Yaaaayyyyy!!! You need to tell me what you thought of it when you finish 😁

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